Can you have love without money? I can't answer for everyone because we all have our different views on money, who is supposed to have it, who doesn't really need it, and how much is considered an exceptable amount of money. What I will do is 'put you up on game' as they say, on how money affects a relationship. First let me explain women on money: Chickenhead (yes, unlike bigfoot, they really do exist) A chickenhead looks to her man to provide for her and her kids no matter who the father is and usually has nothing to offer to a relationship other than herself with no plans of offering anything additional. They also normally come with baggage, exaggerated expectations, overly confident, confrontational, and usually hard to get rid of. Traditionalist believe in working, will have their own money, car, home, etc however they still expect a man to be head of household in every sense of the word, in the event that they are placed in a position to be a stay at home mother/wife some will prefer to work while others may jump at the opportunity. Men are thought of as the provider and protector and they expect just that. This is not a bad quality but the money can play a big factor in their perception of what defines a man. Professional, this woman is very similar to that of a traditionalist when you look at what she has to offer in a relationship, however her requirements of the man's ability to provide are a lot more liberal. They expect a man to work and contribute to the household, however they are happy to share the financial burden of the household, and in the event they are the higher wage earner, they are not bothered by the differences because there is no, mine or yours, its ours. The family unit as a whole is more important than who has the deeper pockets. In the black middle class this is the closest thing you'll get to the standard 'American Dream'. Finally the Potential Seeker, this woman again mirrors that of the professional and traditionalists she has plenty to offer however she will almost always favor love over money. She has hopes of one day living the life of either the professional or the traditionalist, but she's a dreamer and believes that with the right motivation and love any man can be a great provider, husband, and protector. The potential seeker has limited if any standards when it comes to financial culpability when choosing their mate, they are focusing more on the emotional response they get from their mate than determining what they see as earning potential if they are supportive and 'good' women. This unfortunately is a crap shoot and you have a 50/50 chance of ending up with an epic fail or living the dream. Some women are naturally potential seekers or fixers, others are being forced into this category because lets face it women out number men, and when you factor in race, earning potential, education and demographics the numbers don't get any better. Women know what they expect where money is concerned. Even when no other standards are set, monetary standards are always in the back of their mind when choosing a mate. It shows in how they dress, where they hang out, their conversation, etc. This is one of the easiest standards to spot once you know what you are seeking. With that being said, you can have love without money, however the sustainability of the relationship depends largely upon the type of woman you are dating. As far as men I can't say much since I'm not man and frankly they confuse me, so I'd suggest reading Steve Harvey's Think Like a Man Act Like a Lady for Better Insight.

His and Hers

 

Watching her, he can't believe what all they've been through during the passed year.  Some of it together, some of it a part.  The good, the bad and the downright discouraging.  But somehow, fate brought them together to make all the things that seemed unbearable worth the pain for this precious outcome.

 

She sits there, knowing that he is staring at her.  She pretends to be off in her own little world, but she is right there with him.  She too can't believe that they somehow found each other in the midst of so much turmoil.  She knows that his presence is healing to the many scars of her past.  He has accepted her and helped her move towards more peaceful times.  So many things she expected from life, but never did she expect to find him.

 

He sweetly caresses her cheek with a kiss.  She pretends to be surprised, but his sweet demeanor has made such acts of endearment predictable.  Expected or not, every interaction sends chills through both of their bodies.  Its a feeling that true love creates.  Only those who know what they have, can experience such a feeling.  They know, and are thankful everyday for each other. 

 

As they sit and enjoy, what they know is a true blessing, there is a presence much greater than them enjoying the scenery of His own perfect gift of love.  You see, He knows these two.  He knows neither of their journeys have been easy, nor have they been an accident.  They both have a solid foundation of faith.  When times got hard they stayed encouraged that their God would carry the burden when it got too heavy.  Not only did He do just that, He brought them their perfect compliments so their burdens will never be carried alone. This woman's pain is now his, and his pain is now hers.  When they are together, all their pain is eased.  Together they stand in faith.  They have a blessed and harmonious relationship.  And that was God's plan for them.  In obedience and faith, He promises them Agape.  An unconditional love that exist through any hardship or circumstance.  He promises them His and Hers Agape.