I's Married Now

Ten years and two kids later I finally married the love of my life. Everything about us has been nontraditional from how we met to our wedding day, which was a blast by the way. But let me tell you why now more than ever I'm in favor of doing things in a more 'traditional' manner. We've been 'playing house' for a few years now. The "American Dream", two kids, a home, two cars, etc. So getting married was a formality. Yes it was a commitment but he'd already said he wasn't going anywhere and insisted neither was I, one because he loved me but two he was determined to raise our kids as a family unit like we were both raised. It didn't seem like being legally married would change anything for us but it did. When I look at him it's new all over again. After all of these years even though our physical routine hasn't changed our union has and it feels different, it's better and I see him in a whole new light. So what does 'tradition' have to do with it? Ideally we are supposed to date, get married, then have kids, buy a house, etc. Since we went out of order I cannot enjoy my husband like I'd want to. During our honeymoon phase we couldn't take a honeymoon right away because we have small children, mortgages, car payment, scheduled vacation time, etc and trust me you need a honeymoon if for nothing else then to sleep and rest from the wedding. I can't come home and cuddle up alone with my husband and enjoy the newness because I have to take care of the children, make sure everyone has dinner, and of course they demand our attention and don't care that mommy and daddy want to be able to hold a conversation without interruption. These reasons may sound selfish, however the union between a man and woman is sacred and it is important that you don't lose sight of the love you have for each other because we are consumed by other responsibilities. I love my children and my life but wanting time to show my husband that I appreciate him, I enjoy his conversation, planning our future, discussing our business ventures often times take a back seat to the responsibilities we created prior to becoming husband and wife. Does this mean that we did it wrong or that we won't work or that our love is any different? No not all, I can say now even though I didn't believe it before being married is a beautiful thing and relationships are hard so working that hard to be with my boyfriend at times can seem more work than it's worth but working that hard to be with my husband is worth it because he saw fit to make his wife.