Tarzan meet the new Jane

Why don't we understand each other? Are men really from a different planet? Men need to feel powerful, to be pacified, to beat on their big ole chest like Tarzan and claim their Jane. And what are we supposed to do...just sit by and let them. With times changing, women are stepping up to the plate because we're not going from our father's home to our husband's home. We're living on our own, buying cars, houses, running businesses, etc. Some have been put in situations where they must care for kids alone as well. We work 8-10 hours a day, clean house, cook dinner and care for our children. So how are we supposed to react when we do meet a man willing to step in and fill the male role that we have been playing by ourselves. In many houses there are power struggles and really no one's at fault..Initially. Times have changed and we have had to evolve, however as men and women we have not changed how we relate to each other. Once we have become one, share a household, a bed, our bodies, children both as men and women we must compromise our former selves, our former roles, and our way of thinking to work together like putting a puzzle together. Many women wear their independence as a badge of honor even overtly prideful at times "look what can do, have done, and will continue to do". But at some point we have been taught, or longed for 'the dream'. Come home from work or not work, prepare dinner, tend to the husband and children, do laundry on the weekends, have date night, be showered with gifts, etc. Personally, I enjoy fixing plates, holding hands in the mall, hugs for no reason, and movie night. I am Jane and I have met my Tarzan. On the other hand men must also understand the roles that women are playing and ease their way into the 'traditional' male role. Make her believe you are ready and willing to lead her in the right direction. Allow her to trust you and your decisions, to feel safe to let go of how they've grown accustomed to living. Allow her to embrace her independence and know that you are not their to take over or change who she is but to compliment her achievements and only their to compound them. With that being said, when I look around at all of these lovely ladies handling their business, do I think that the independent badge is fake? No, it feels good to know that 'I got this, that, and anything else I need to get'. The issue occurs when we can't let go of the power that we've had for so many years. The need to do things your way because it's worked for you until this point. How do yo move forward and learn to let 'him' be the man? When I initially wrote this peace I ended by saying I didn't know the answer this day a few years later I still don't but I've made great progress and our relationship has grown leaps and bounds as I've worked to understand the ends and outs of being a girlfriend and now wife.