Second Best

Why are married, taken, involved, etc men off limits. The answer seems easy doesn't it...Uhmm they're off limits because they're not single. But in this world we live in, doesn't seem that simple. Many 'off the market' men are partaking in extracurricular activities. I'm only speaking about men right now because I have a point to make. I'm not referring to the men who've mislead women. The one's who've led an unsuspecting woman to believe that he was single. I'm referring to the women who date men knowing that they are not his 'main' chick, not his wife, his girlfriend, fiancé' etc. There are a number of issues with these types of relationships, the first being self respect. There is no justification that you can convince me that it is okay to know that a man is laying with another woman, kissing, holding, cuddling, and telling her he loves her, while you wait for 'your turn'. Grasping to the times you sneak away. Spending holidays alone, with stolen moments when he's supposed to be else where. As women it is natural for us to want to be loved, caressed, wined and dined, and no I don't want to wait my turn. I'm not bashing women, but you have to ask yourself this question if women weren't willing to settle for the 'other' status then men would know it wasn't an option. This is not to pass judgement, it's to tell fellow females that we deserve that home he's provided for his wife. We deserve to cook dinner for our man and know that at the end of the night he's not telling someone else good night honey. We deserve to expect that we are his one and only. As the beautiful creatures that we are we hold the power. Yes we hold the power between our legs, but we hold it in our soul, in our curves, in our smile, between our ears. We hold to power to demand the love and respect we all deserve. I want to be seen in public, I want to share pictures on social media, I want to be a wife and mother, but you can't be that, you don't get that when he's already giving it to someone else. Ok, so you have a situation where he's unhappy, he's planning on leaving his wife, dumping his baby mama, or moving out from his girlfriends house; then make him wait. If he's interested then we he has separated himself and closed one door than he's free to give his all when he opens that door with you. If you don't think your self worth is enough then remember this. One day you'll meet your prince charming, he'll sweep you off of your feet and fulfill all your dreams, but he'll have someone on the side because now it's your turn...