The Era of the Side Piece Part 2 of 3

I know some women out there who would love to scream "Bring back the Mistress". Not that having a mistress was ever a good thing for the wife or girlfriend at home but there was a time when a mistress stay behind the scenes. There are women who had entire families with married men and never caused a problem for his wife and children. Secrets come out all of the time about whispers of someone else being the father of an illegitimate child. Am I praising this behavior. No, with a capital NO. However if you look at today's Mistresses now proudly wearing the title of side chic. They repeatedly overstep their bounds and forget their place in line. I'm not referring to the women out there who've been mislead and were not aware that he is currently in a relationship and had been for years or is married, engaged etc. I'm talking about the women who knew/know about his wife, live-in girlfriend, baby mama, whatever and know she's not his main girl. These chics now, going through phones, inboxing wives, DM girlfriends, posting selfies and bragging, showing up at her home, blowing up his phone when he's with his family, and going on full-fledged dates, stealing privileges that have not been given to you. How are you as the 'extra' in this picture mad and fighting the original staring cast member? Make it make sense. My rule to those who have chosen to walk in that lifestyle, when you're caught you have no right to be mad at the wife, girlfriend, or whatever she calls herself if she was there first. If this unsuspecting woman is blindsided and heartbroken because of a situation that you played a role in, you just have to take whatever she has to say just like he does. There are consequences to all choices we make be it good or bad and that is one you have to deal with should it come your way. That lame excuse and comeback that 'if you were doing what you needed to he wouldn't be with me'. Is tired and that broken record is not always true. If you were that much better than her he would leave her to be with you. If the wife is still around then she's around for a reason. At the end of the day 'side chicks' deserve to be happy too and if this man is feeling you like that, make him close that chapter before he starts a new one with you. News Flash for you, chances are you'll end up with in a tug-of-war and if you win you're prize will be a bunch of baggage you had no idea the wife was dealing with in the first place. Have fun! I haven't forgotten about the men that are side pieces. They have a tendency to stay in their lane more often then not because chances are if they are your side piece then you are theirs as well. It's all messy and nasty and why Maury, Paternity Court, and Steve Wilkos will continue to do shows about DNA. Its a double standard but at the end of every segment when they announce those 'unexpected' results who is usually crying and running of the stage? Who is left caring for an unwanted, possibly 'unfathered' child. Social Media, Reality TV, Music and Pop Culture have encouraged the era of the side piece. The blame still falls on us as sheep because we have lost the ability to separate real life from entertainment. What you hear, see, and read on the internet, television and radio should not be a script for your life unless you are the actor playing the role and getting paid for your services. I will end this by saying I'm a happily married woman but If I find out my husband has a side piece she can have him and don't come calling me later trying to give him back. I have a strict no return or refund policy. I promise you they don't make many women like me who can handle him like I have. It's like taming a wild animal and you'd need to be highly skilled and qualified or you'll get hurt. #JaneluvsTarzan Stay tuned for the last part of this series.