What if they cheated? Part 1 of 3

Well it's been a while and I wasn't sure where to post this, but it's most fitting to discuss cheating in a blog regarding 'love'. Most people at some point in their life have experienced the heartache of being cheated on or at times have been the cheater. Although this has not been in an issue is my current relationship, it has been in the past. The reason I'd like to address this is because it seems to be all around me and I must admit it makes me nervous. It makes me want to hug my husband tighter, love him harder, and show him that I'm all he needs in a wife. But let me tell you ladies and gentlemen, when it comes to infidelity that doesn't matter. I can't force my husband to see me as the prize that I am if he doesn't want to and that goes for anyone out there who has or is dealing with infidelity. I'm also not saying that there have never been situations where one mate has pushed another mate into someone else's arms. People have been neglectful, angry, bitter, lazy, emotionally unavailable, abusive, passive, physically unavailable, unstable, etc and their other half has felt they had no other choice but to have those needs met by someone outside of the relationship. I say this to point out if it happens the first response is point the finger at yourself asking 'what did I do wrong' 'could have I have been a better man/woman' 'did I not try hard enough'. When you ask yourself those questions and if you can truthfully say you brought your A game to the relationship, that you did your part as a spouse, help meet, partner, and lover. Baby, don't carry that burden with you. That is not yours to own. Don't weigh yourself down carrying hurt, pain, and blame for the issues and transgressions of those that are not a reflection of who you are or what you represent. That heartache and betrayal belongs to the cheater, you can relieve yourself of those feelings and relinquish that power over your life, do not hold on to it letting it harden your spirit. Man or woman we all deserve to be happy, life is not really that short anymore but if you live your life unhappy being hurt or hurting others it's going to be a long miserable road for you. If you look in the mirror and find that you did not put your best foot forward, you dropped the ball in many situations, and when it counted most you were not the mate you should have been; except that responsibility, apologize, move forward, and make changes to be a better you, if not for your current mate then for the next one. Am I saying that excuses infidelity? No because it still hurts and leaves scars even if we feel justified in our actions. More people end up hurt then happy in most cases. We need to close the door on one chapter before moving on to the next. If I were writing a book and kept jumping from chapter to chapter not finishing what I'd started it would be messy and confusing trying to figure out what I'm talking about and most people would put the book down before getting to the end. If you are in a failing or failed relationship either fix it or end it before moving on to someone else. I could go on and on about self respect and how it relates to relationships but let me leave this here. Even if you don't believe you owe anyone anything, you owe it to yourself to live. Turn on the Tv and watch Fatal Attraction, Snapped, For My Man, Deadly Women, etc and you will see people are killing over relationships. I don't know about your but I'm not trying to end up on one of those shows. Stay tuned for part 2 of this segment "The Era of the Side Piece" and Part 3 "Where do you go from here" Love Always